Marriage, feels more like a battle then a blessing, doesn’t it? The days of freedom and spontaneity give way to the prison of schedules and monotony and before you know it, you’re living like roommates. Jobs and children take priority over each other, bitterness and resentment settle in, with anger and contempt moving into the guest room, pushing emotional and sexual intimacy out the door. You start fantasizing about your ex, your coworker, or even being alone, and slowly you start to believe life without your husband would be better. You ask yourself, “How in the world did we get here? This isn’t what I signed up for! Why won’t he change? When will God convict him? Is divorce the only option?”

You’re tired of replaying that same argument in your mind, constantly feeling defeated, unheard and powerless but you can’t make it stop. You’re done doing everything: cooking, cleaning, taking the children to all their activities while getting back in time to switch over the laundry as it patiently waits for you to take care of it, and oh yes, you’re working a full-time job as well. You see other women with successful marriages and wonder why yours is different. You’ve cried more tears during your marriage than you thought humanly possible and you’re exhausted. The word divorce has entered your mind more times than you’re comfortable admitting because after all, you’re “a Christian”. So you suffer in silence and keep it together on the outside but you’re dying on the inside. You dare ask God, “Don’t You see what’s happening here?!? Why aren’t You intervening? Is this the marriage you promised me? Where are You God?!?”

Ladies, the battle for your marriage is fierce and even though the Bible says that we have a God who is for us, we also have an enemy who is hell-bent on destroying our lives, and that includes our marriage. And it all started in the garden. You see, God created Adam and then said it was not good for man to be alone so He created Eve as a helpmate, a partner and with that role a purpose (Genesis 2:18). Satan, our adversary and enemy used doubt, temptation and deception to lure Eve away from what she knew to be true, what God told her and Adam. And she gave in, believed the lies of Satan over the truth from God and the cycle began. She later blamed Satan (Genesis 3:13) and passed off personal responsibility. Sound familiar? Oh, and one more thing, Adam blamed God and Eve for his sin. That’s right, the husband blamed the wife and God, for his disobedience as well (Genesis 3:1-12). Sigh, (eyeroll).

IT CAN CHANGE WITH YOU

Your marriage does NOT have to be over. You do NOT have to go another day feeling helpless and hopeless. And you do NOT have to face these battles alone. Together we can expose the lies that are increasing the conflicts and see the obstacles that say “You can’t” and have you saying, “I can!”. Satan’s power is in the belief of the lies that he tells you, and when they are exposed to the truth of God’s word, his plans are defeated. I can help you feel empowered by knowing and choosing the truth and take the ground back for your marriage, find peace in the midst of the storm, implement boundaries for emotional stability, experience increased connection with your husband and have the marriage that God designed for you.

*Please note: I do not provide marriage counseling for husbands and wives together. I provide individual counseling for women only for support as they navigate the trials in the marital dynamic with their husbands.

Contact me today at (719) 792-9237 or patricia@enduringheartscounseling.com to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation for Professional Christian counseling for women in Colorado, New York, New Jersey, & Pennsylvania and let’s work towards hope for your marriage.